Healing in Your Own Way: Why There’s No ‘Right’ Path to Moving Forward

Some wounds don’t just fade with time.

People like to say, “Just move on.” “Time heals everything.” “Think positive.”
But what if it doesn’t? What if the weight of the past still lingers? What if healing isn’t a straight road but a jagged, unpredictable climb?

I’ve been there—stuck in my own head, haunted by things I couldn’t change, waiting for some magical moment when I’d suddenly “be okay.” Spoiler: That moment never came.

Because healing isn’t a switch you flip.
It’s messy. It’s personal. And most of all, it doesn’t look the same for everyone.

The Problem with the “One-Size-Fits-All” Healing Advice

We live in a world that loves quick solutions.
Lost someone? “Grieve and let go.”
Had a rough childhood? “Forgive and move forward.”
Feeling stuck? “Find your purpose.”

But what if you’re not ready?
What if forgiving someone feels like betraying yourself?
What if moving forward feels impossible because you don’t even know where you are?

The truth is—healing isn’t a formula. It’s a fight. And you get to decide how you fight it.

Your Healing Doesn’t Have to Look Like Theirs
Some people heal through therapy. Some through work. Some through solitude. Some through art. Some through prayer. Some through anger, breakdowns, and rebuilding.

And all of it is valid.

I used to think I had to heal a certain way—to forgive easily, to be at peace, to never be angry. But that’s not how it worked for me.

For me, healing looked like:
🔹 Building something from my pain instead of letting it consume me.
🔹 Cutting off people who drained me—even if they were family.
🔹 Letting myself feel anger, sadness, and grief instead of forcing positivity.
🔹 Rewriting my own story instead of living by someone else’s expectations.

And that’s okay.

Because healing isn’t about what looks right from the outside—it’s about what feels right for you.

The Lies We Tell Ourselves About Healing

We often believe:

❌ “ If I was strong, this wouldn’t still hurt. ” → No. Strength isn’t about never hurting. It’s about facing your pain instead of running from it.

❌ “I should be over this by now.” → No. There is no timeline for healing. Some wounds take years. Some never fully close. That’s okay.

❌ “Healing means never feeling this pain again.” → No. Healing doesn’t mean erasing the past. It means learning to carry it differently.

What If You’re Not Ready to Heal?

That’s okay, too.

Maybe healing, for you, is just surviving today.
Maybe it’s functioning even when the weight is unbearable.
Maybe it’s getting up even when you don’t want to.

That’s enough.

You are enough.

Healing isn’t a finish line. There’s no deadline. No gold medal for “fastest recovery.”
You get to do this at your own pace, in your own way, on your own terms.

So, If You Take Anything From This, Let It Be This:
📌 Your healing is yours. It won’t look like anyone else’s, and it doesn’t have to.

📌 You don’t owe anyone a timeline. If it still hurts, that doesn’t mean you’re weak. It means you’re human.

📌 You don’t have to forgive, forget, or move on before you’re ready. Healing isn’t about pretending things never happened—it’s about learning how to live after they did.

📌 And most of all—where you are right now is okay. Even if it’s messy. Even if it’s slow. Even if you don’t feel like you’re making progress.

Because healing isn’t about getting back to who you were.
It’s about becoming who you were meant to be.

If You Need Help Moving Forward, Let’s Talk.

I help people work through the chaos of their minds, their past, and their pain—not with generic advice, but with real conversations, psychology-backed insights, and personal experience.